Why do we keep Expecting more?
Just another day when you question the people around you!
Do you ever find yourself in situations where you give yourself a shut-up call wondering you might be overthinking about the scenario? Well, let me tell you, it’s not you; it’s the world that makes you think that way.
Expecting more is not a sin. We all deserve to be loved, to be acknowledged, and to be heard.
When I put in an effort to make the other person happy, I expect, if not 100, then at least 25–50% of it back. When I end up disappointed again, I ask myself, “was I expecting too much?”
Today, I can say from the previous life experiences, NO, I expected what I deserved but did not get even the minimum of it.
When we grow up, we are asked to act more realistic and more understanding. Receiving love sounds alien to us. We keep telling ourselves:
“It’s okay.”
“They must be busy.”
“We are grown-ups now.”
“Things like this shouldn’t matter.”
BUT THEY DO!
Each and everything that the person you let in your life DOES MATTER.
It matters to you and, IT SHOULD MATTER TO THEM!
When you put an effort to make the other person feel special on their day by setting alarms, staying up late, writing long paragraphs, telling them you are proud of them and that you have their back, finding and editing pictures; you are doing this to make them feel special, to tell them they are seen, and they are important to you. These things may seem minute to the world, but they mean the world to some who are always craving affection and acknowledgment.
We all want this in life. We want someone to put an effort to make us feel like we are worth their time; we mean something to them, and they are trying their best to make us happy.
Some of us never craved fancy things, a simple:
“I am thinking about you, have a good day,”
“I wish the best for you.”
or smallest prayers could make us the happiest person on earth.
But how is it that some of us always end up crying on our birthdays and other important events, because of people who don’t value us or consider us worthy enough?
I kept thinking over and over again,
“Was I acting childish?”
“They might have forgotten about it?”
“Was I over-expecting?”
The answer to all the questions that went through my mind is NO!
I am not acting childish. You can always take out time for people who mean something to you and that is what makes them special. You don’t entirely forget events of people who are important to you. I was not over-expecting; it’s just that people in my life are always making me feel I am not worth their time.
The only question that is left answered is, “when will we get used to all of this, it’s been so many years of disappointment already.”
Happy 25 years to learning that just because your expectations are not meant does not mean you are expecting a lot from people around you!
I hope we all find people who make us feel loved!
